Hello fam. It’s the ninth blog post for this year already its September! What speed! Well its 16 days to my 20th birthday and I’ve been thinking a lot lately about a plethora of things. I’ll share them over a period of time starting today.
Recently I watched (abi saw) Disney’s “A Wrinkle in Time” (I’m slow yes I know). I don’t do movie reviews but if I did I would probably rate the movie high as a very beautiful movie with a beautiful story.
So somewhere in the movie one of the characters (a Miss) is supposedly giving a gift to Meglet the main character to aid her on her journey and she says “To You I give the gift of your faults, You’re welcome” and Meg asks “But you do know my faults are the bad qualities right” and the Miss replies “Are they really?”
At this point I was confused. I knew the movie had a psychological aspect but I didn’t know what the writer was driving at.
And then in a battle with the IT (a sort of imagery of the devil who has taken over her junior brother Charles James’ mind) Meglet says, “I know my faults. How I’m messy, uncoordinated, don’t trust anyone. And most days I hate myself. I’m impulsive and suspicious. Yet you love me” right after remembering the words of one of the Misses who tells her “The wound is the place where the light enters you”
This set me off thinking.
Our faults are gifts.
How many times do we judge ourselves for our faults by ourselves and hate ourselves. How many times do we rise our own voice above the throng of those condemning us for what we didn’t create or cause?
The plot of the movie was epic. Meglet didn’t like herself because she wasn’t like others she wasn’t “beautiful”. And the Devil (sorry I’m so Christian ill call the IT the devil) tempted her with another girl who was “perfect”
The problem was Meg was beautiful and spectacular she had just been listening to the wrong voice.
She’s like many of us. We find ourselves consistently measuring ourselves to some image. Mirror Mirror on the wall and our phone screens feeds us with lies upon lies.
You’re too fat. You’re too skinny
You’re so short. You’re too tall
You’re socially awkward. You’re not beautiful
You have Acne. You have pimples.
Your butt isnt big enough. Bla Bla Bla
We keep judging and sizing ourselves.
Well today I’m writing to ask us to stop judging ourselves. We cannot control the judgement of others but we can definitely control ours.
Why don’t tell yourself the truth. Tell yourself YOU ARE ENOUGH. Tell yourself there are many things you are not but there are also so MANY THINGS YOU ARE.
Tell yourself you have enough fat in your body and it keeps you warm. Tell yourself your height is okay and it makes you connect more with things and natural elements. Tell yourself you might not be like everybody else because you are a different person.
Tell yourself that the scars you have are only beauty marks and sources of pride because they tell a story about someone who has fallen down seven times and risen eight.
One of our greatest problems in this generation is the one size fits all mentality. Take it from me. One size fits all is crap. There is no such theorem! Everybody is different. Another reference from a wrinkle in time and an article by Jon Bloom I read recently: there has been a series of connections and events and sparks from time immemorial through ages to create you just the way you are – it’s no incident and no two twins have the same line of events that made them to be.
I stumbled on a spoken word by Prince EA about two weeks ago and it was about Perfectionism. He defined it as something that doesn’t exists and ended with “Real People aren’t perfect and Perfect People aren’t real” Prince EA also said something – he said disabilities are gifts in disguise they are special gifts.
Let me shout this loud and clear for those who don’t know
“THIS GENERATION IS FULL OF NORMAL PEOPLE WITH FLAWS, IMPERFECTIONS AND STRUGGLES. BUT THIS GENERATION HAS A SPECIAL GIFT (AND CURSE) – THE ABILITY TO SELECT WHAT PARTS OF ITSELF TO PRESENT TO THE WORLD AND PRESENT A PERFECT FRONT. BUT AT THE END OF IT ALL PERFECTIONISM IS A MYTH AND EVEN THE BEST “PERSONALITY ARTISTS” STRUGGLE”
Understanding this is golden.
Don’t kill yourself trying to be perfect. Be real. Love your faults. And let the light shine through the crack of your faults.
And lastly don’t judge others please.
Thank you for reading. Bye and see you this month again or next month.