OVERCOME YOUR FEARS AND ‘FAILURES’

Hey guys, your number one blogger is here. Your blogger extraordinaire is here with the first post of 2017. Everyone has been shouting 2017 is my year of success well I hope this helps you and its also part and parcel of my #HEALYOURWORLD series. P.s. I might reduce my write frequency
It is often said, the ability to conquer your fears and move on from your ‘failures’ is elemental to Success. What does this tell us? It tells us to be big boys and girls and it also teaches us an elemental truth I would soon come to. A rather humorous African quote says,

“When life gives you pepper, make pepper-soup”

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Its funny but its the truth often life sends pepper our way sends discouragements some harsh trials and harsh winds.

What defines us is how well we rise above the tide. How well we swim pass this waves and rocket above this problems. I think I’m finally ready to state the elemental truth which is my first principle for today

#Principle 1 – Life is full of ups and downs. What makes us different is how we respond positively or negatively.

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Next, I intend to get rid of something I call a victim mindset. A victim mindset is one of the saddest things that happens to people all over the world. It Is when you tell yourself and sort of decide within yourself that what happened to you happened to you because of something you did and you will never recover from it. Let me be plain truthful That’s rubbish! And its so sad we humanly always create victims of ourselves.

People, troubles come naturally, problems aren’t different from the waves that appear on water;they come with life and because a problem is vaguely or vividly related to a circumstance in your life doesn’t mean its localized to you. It comes with life and if you cant ride the wave; don’t bother taking your surf board on the ocean. In other words, for the fact you are alive and hope to live a long fruitful life, learn to deal with the drama and save yourself from Trauma. So my second principle

#Principle 2 – A victim mindset cripples us from moving on

Now, let us examine ‘failure’ and fear. Take note I use ‘failure’ always in quote because I don’t think that word is healthy. Lets see it as a temporary recess. Like the period between death and Jesus’ second coming as a temporal thing except of course we fear the wrong result.

Now lets examine how to fear wrong and right

Fear as a word can be made into an acronym and it actually possesses 2 meanings. Its either you:

F – Forget                                                                                    F- Face

E – Everything                                                                           E – Everything

A – And                                                                                        A- And

R – Run                                                                                        R- Rise

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So after every ‘failure’ and setback, we have 2 choices either to FEAR or fear. I am using and recommending you use FEAR in capital to represent the good fear and fear in lower-case to represent the bad fear. Anyways we either, forget everything; to forget all the good that has happened to us and our possible window out of the situation; to blind our eyes to everything and everyone; to shut ourselves out from the world and run run run to where? Actually no where till we eventually depress ourselves or we can decide to face; to stand eye to eye with; to find a solution; to accept our failures and admit to others and receive their counsel; to embrace the situation and accept what has happened as it is and rise slowly.

Rising again wont be easy. Lets make Rachel Platten’s fight song our soundtrack :

“This is my fight song take back my life-song

Prove I’m alright song my powers turned on

Starting right now ill be strong

Ill play my fight song and I don’t really care if no one believes in me

Cause I still got a lot of fight left in me”

Don’t ever let your fight die. A bible verse says

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear but a spirit of power, of love and a sound mind.

When an athlete has an accident and loses their legs or their motor skills or when someone has an accident or a stroke, it takes time in physiotherapy to calmly again like a baby regain the ability to eat, talk and do other primary functions till one day you can run again.

When an eagle gets injured it also has to go through flying 101 again before achieving excellence that’s how it is when we face ‘temporal recesses’ (take note I didn’t use failure this time). We have to humble ourselves and slowly but steadily rise to our peak which will drag me to my next lesson but first lemme give our third principle.

Principle #3 – We should learn to FEAR and not fear

Now my last lesson. I know those of you familiar with me are used to 3 but today I have to include a fourth is all about wisdom in ‘temporal recesses’. Now when we make mistakes, the ideal thing to do is learn from them. To try our possible best not to make them again. To sit down evaluate and examine what led to our recess and try to avoid it re-occurring.

This is a personal exercise I do and want to advice to everyone reading or watching this. Whenever you make a mistake and have those moments of regret (if you must have them), sit down get a piece of paper and evaluate how it happened in the first place then think deep and write a resolution not to do it again. It has helped before and will really help.

A quote once said, “they say we learn from our mistakes, ill soon be a professional” and there was a picture of a little birdie. Well true but another picture said something else. “The wisest people are those who learn from the mistakes of others”.

So In essence I’m also advising something else. When you see someone make a mistake don’t give that skeptical look and attitude, but examine it see where the person went wrong and then don’t go that way. Its like going on a road and seeing someone hit the tree, you swerve to the other side so you wont hit the tree but when you hit the tree after seeing the person in front hit it, even a baby will call you foolish. Its not different from when you see someone try something and fail (hit a wall) and still do it.

So learn from others mistakes and learn from your mistakes. Take note don’t be deceived that if you learn from others mistakes you wont make yours. Yes you will make yours and someone else will have an opportunity to learn from them and how you rose again. So finally I reach my final fourth principle

#Principle 4 – Mistakes are lessons. We learn from those we make and those others make.

SO People, I think this 4 principles are a recipe to dealing with fear and ‘temporary recesses’ (‘failures’). I hope you find this helpful and travel well to your destiny. STAND UP YOU ARE A CHAMPION. Peace out and to my American readers a good farewell to POTUS and welcome to Trump. Remember Obamas words

“Believe in your capacity to create change”

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